* "Unlearn the South African habit of confusing discipline with punishment"

* "There is no such thing as destiny; you make your own with the grace you receive"

* "Do not waste your time making meaningless resolutions; just do the right thing"

* "Do not live your life apologetically; people will sense it and walk all over you"

* "Do not tell people what you are prepared to die for; tell them what you are prepared to live for"

* "When you learn to forgive you relieve yourself of pain and add years to your life"